be okay, pt. II

this time, the social sphere.

awkwardness is mostly just a feeling - 

one that is often unnecessary and illegitimate.

when you stumble over words,

when you hesitate,

when the topic goes awry,

when you have to ask "what?" several times,

when there's a lull in the conversation

because there's nothing to say,

don't panic.  there's really no need to squirm.

let it be what it is.

what makes you expect smooth, streamlined social interactions?

talking isn't like writing,

and real conversations are not like those in movies and on television.

it's not all perfectly scripted.  accept that.

when you find yourself alone with a person or people

you don't know well,

recognize the fact that there just may not be much to talk about quite yet.

it's okay.  throw asunder any discomfort that may arise.

be at peace with the silence, yourself, and the other person.

do this without reaching for your cell phone or ipod.

shutting the curtains down on people isn't going to improve your sociability.

so, just be okay.